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The One With 5 Useful Tips For A Great Travel Experience

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What makes a great holiday? If you are anything like me, you would have taken holiday paths both well-trodden and unknown, and to places near and afar. You would have accumulated quite a few well-shared travel tips and funny anecdotes. All these come together as somewhat like a compass in your heart, to be whipped out with a flourish when you plan for your next holiday.

Here’s my tips for a great holiday experience, as published on Sparklette.net

5 Easy Steps for Better Anger Management

I need to control my anger!

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And so I was angry today over something that was beyond my control and someone’s seemingly childish behaviour towards what I was doing. Coupled with my recent stress and packed schedule, I snapped.

My close friends will tell you that I seldom get angry. I am always so calm and logical, you will be hard pressed to find me in a huff of the-world-has-something-against-me attitude.

A couple of angry, long and loaded SMS-es ensued between the “offending” party and I. In the end, he said sorry and I stopped myself from continuing my tirade. I realised that… perhaps, just perhaps, my anger was not justified. My outburst does not help the situation I was in, and at least two person were then upset.

I need to manage the situation. I need to gain control. So I did what I have to do:

#1 – Stop whatever I was doing. I know if I continued on berating on how I felt, it will never end and my anger will not abate. So I did nothing. And started the long journey home.

#2 – Took a deep breathe, and looked far, far away. I know this seems very cheesy – heck, even I did not believe in such crap – but to my amazement, it helped. My fast heartbeat subsided, and my palms felt less clammy.

#3 – Vented my anger elsewhere. At places where no one can understand the context of my anger, and yet help was on hand to calm you somewhat. I don’t know about you, but venting online (like on Plurk and Facebook) and the resulting comments helped.

#4 – Start to think about “what’s next” instead of “what happened”. There is little point to dwell on the who said what and when, really. What I need is a way to take on the next step, to make things better.

#5 – Look at the big picture. It was indeed just a small thing. There is always next time. And chances are the other party’s friendship is more important than this… qualm. After all, it is only because he is important enough to make me feel provoked in the first place.

If you like me, a can of beer (or two) will definitely make you feel better. Listen to your favorite music – Olivia Ong is playing on my iTunes right now. Oh, and blogging about it (like what I am doing now) is a really therapeutic way to manage your anger.

And to you: I am sorry for the outburst. I really am. We arrange for the next time ok?

10 Signs of a Good Masseur for a Fantastic Massage

I just had the most wonderful massage.

Deep, unhurried strokes, working out the kinks at my shoulder blades and chest. Loosening up my back and cracking (ahhhhh) my bones. Tender but firm caressing of the face. All these at a very affordable price and done at home. Yes, I had a house-call masseur.

I often wonder – how many of us enjoy massages as much as yours truly but always, for some reasons, walk away from one feeling dissatisfied? I go for familiarity. Once I found a good one, I will stick with him for a period of time (until the quality deteriorate, at which point I will start looking again).

How do you know if you found the right one? Well, here are a list of ten-pointers of a good masseur:

  1. The masseur arrives on time. Every time. Nothing irks me more than a masseur who doesn’t respect my time
  2. The masseur knows that you need to be calm and serene to enter into the mood for a massage. Incessant small talk is a definite no-no
  3. The masseur brought his own towels. A big one for the bed, a couple of smaller ones to cover you throughout the massage. You should not be feeling cold at any point of the massage.
  4. The masseur uses actual massage oil. No… body lotion and baby oil are not for proper massage. Massage oil are usually fragant – lavender, jasmine etc. Smell it. You should feel calmed by the smell.
  5. The masseur always start by stretching you. I loved it when mine starts by pressing on my shoulders and low back in turn, stretching the muscle, cracking my backbone… ahh…
  6. The masseur always know the right spot to touch. How would you know? Well, if you are a gymmer like me, your masseur will feel your tense muscle. You should be feeling pain and relief at the same time as he work away your stiffness
  7. The masseur always take his time, and be methodical in the way he massages. You can tell by how he does the left side of your body, and the right. The stroke, routine and strength should feel identical. If not, chances are he does not what he is doing.
  8. The masseur often response to your breathing and sounds. If he sense you are uncomfortable and in pain, he will stop momentarily and ask if you are okay. God forbid if you get one that work away ignoring your scream of pain!
  9. The masseur work your body thoroughly. Mine start from the shoulder, back, lower back, legs, pelvic, then turn me around for face, neck, chest, stomach, legs again, and finally feet. If he spent more time then he should at one part, he should not shortchange you by skipping any parts of your body.
  10. Finally, a happy ending is not part of your massage! That goes without saying. Massage is not sex. If you want sex, go to the right places, like Geylang or Tanjong Pagar.

I am looking forward a good night sleep tonight. After a crappy day today, I deserve to be pampered… for once.

For you fellow massage-lovers, what would YOU add to this list?